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Jamie Birch🔥

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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 8Hi Steven,My advice would be to give him one thing you want to see from him in the first 5 minutes and praise him for it as soon as you see it. That will set the tone and give him quick gratification for a behaviour you want to see.I’d also advise (others may disagree) that you talk about anything but football in the car ride there and back. He’ll probably feel quite tense on the way there so take the football discussions to times when the emotion isn’t high.Just as the session is starting, give… See more1Reply

Jamie Birch🔥

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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 8Hi Steven,My advice would be to give him one thing you want to see from him in the first 5 minutes and praise him for it as soon as you see it. That will set the tone and give him quick gratification for a behaviour you want to see.I’d also advise (others may disagree) that you talk about anything but football in the car ride there and back. He’ll probably feel quite tense on the way there so take the football discussions to times when the emotion isn’t high.Just as the session is starting, give… See more1Reply

Jamie Birch🔥

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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 8Hi Steven,My advice would be to give him one thing you want to see from him in the first 5 minutes and praise him for it as soon as you see it. That will set the tone and give him quick gratification for a behaviour you want to see.I’d also advise (others may disagree) that you talk about anything but football in the car ride there and back. He’ll probably feel quite tense on the way there so take the football discussions to times when the emotion isn’t high.Just as the session is starting, give… See more1Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 8Thanks mate 👍 it’s partly our fault as we weee letting some of the tackles go a little bit to much but they were getting up and carrying on it was jsut a couple of tackles that where fair but caught each others ankles then it went to far2Reply

Jamie Birch🔥

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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 8@Steven Hall There’s a balance, it’s a physical game and you want training to have some intensity. You’ll play how you train so you want some of that. As long as they are shaking each others hand afterwards rather than fighting. Players need to blow off some steam as well.1Reply

Kevin Middleton⭐🔥

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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 8Hi Steven, the major issue with kids, no matter who the kids is, is that once one of them starts to misbehave, the rest may think it is acceptable.I think you have done the correct thing by stating that there is a consequence for negative actions.Tonight, I think there is a balance to be struck. Based on my experience, I would never call out an individual in a group setting as that can backfire for so many reasons. What I would do instead is call the whole group in and ask them a simple question… See more3Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 8Thanks mateReally good way of putting it2Reply

Kevin Middleton⭐🔥

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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 8@Steven Hall Good luck, mate. It’s no easy sometimes!2Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 8@Kevin Middleton lol I’m sure it will be fine done it for long enough to know they don’t want to listen to me talking to much so get them playing break and talk about what we need moving forward then crack on into some work around receiving as 1v1, 2v2 then a keep ball 3v1 is the plan into a SSG at the end.I’m sure we over think things in our nature as a coach I’ve come home and he’s fine just hope there’s not a carry on from last week2Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 8Best age mate they are really receptive try things you say and have fun all in one2Reply

Kevin Middleton⭐🔥

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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 8@Steven Hall Agreed! Let us know how the session goes, please, Steven1Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 9 (edited)the session went ok, my lads confidence is really low now he walked off in the middle section, was really upset and his effort wasn’t 100%.In the final game all I was doing was praising everything he did and he started to play like I know he can so hopefully just a temp blip.Lots of praise and love for him going forward to build him back up.2Reply

Jamie Birch🔥

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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 9@Steven Hall Great approach Steven. Let us know how this develops over the next few weeks please0Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 9 (edited)Will do mate thanks for the help guys.At the minute he’s taking any sort of feedback/help in a negative manner and thinks we are calling him rubbish etc. he’s got a lot going on by the looks of it we are trying to change his position so in his head he believes we think the other lad that’s playing where he used to is better but that’s not the case. He was LW but we now have a left footed winger so trying to change him to RW as he’s right footed.He had a shot that went wide and one of the other l… See more1Reply

Ross Whitehead🔥

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Ross Whitehead🔥 • Oct 9@Steven Hall It’s really hard to juggle being a parent and being a coach at the same time.I’ve had to have a few chats with my son about taking feedback better. He would take everything as a criticism, so I sat him down and explained that we’re just trying to help him get better, so take the help that is offered and don’t get angry or upset about it.Sometimes we make a bit of a joke if they mess up a shot/fall over/get nutmegged etc. I think it helps to keep things light-hearted and it shows tha… See more3Reply

Jamie Birch🔥

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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 9@Ross Whitehead great advice Ross1Reply

Kevin Middleton⭐🔥

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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 9@Ross Whitehead Love this Ross 👏1Reply

Chris Unruh

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Chris Unruh • Oct 9 (edited)I have come to a realization that players even at the youngest of ages rarely even need to be told when they “make a mistake” . There are obvious coaching points that can happen like let’s try this pass instead of that or support from here etc. but I have found that lowering the blood pressure of the session and telling kids everything they do wrong really doesn’t help at all.When they come off there might be a simple - what would you try next time instead? What did you see? Try to gauge if they… See more2Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 9 (edited)@Chris Unruh thats a superb answer and a massive help Chris!! Thanks 👍I think his behaviour is because he finds some of the stuff easy/ boring and he needs more of a challenge.I edge the teams a bit sometimes so he finds it more of a challenge but he sees it that’s he put with the worst players so he must be a bad player especially if the other team start to win, if they do the he raises his game but it looks like he’s being greedy not passing and has lost his head and playing with a bad attitu… See more2Reply

Kevin Middleton⭐🔥

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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 10@Chris Unruh 👏1Reply

Chris Unruh

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Chris Unruh • Oct 9Time together away from the pitch or the team is very important. Take him to a movie and just have a kid and dad night maybeOne thing I’ve done to varying success has been doing some of those small sided games but adding a joker who can’t score (or must be involved in play) or out of bounds neutrals.Sometimes just dialling it all the way back and having a session with all the fav games the kids play can go miles too to reset everyone2Reply

Liam Milburn

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Liam Milburn • Oct 11Steve, I feel your pain mate. I coach my son myself and I can honestly say it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.He also has behavioural issues (distracting others, not paying attention to instructions, lashing balls around the list goes on 🤣) which I take to heart and also don’t allow others to do. He plays for 2 teams and I don’t coach one, I find that so easy, because the threat of going home because he’s not putting in the effort and messing around is there, I can literally leave. H… See more3Reply

Jamie Birch🔥

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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 11@Liam Milburn great advice Liam thanks for sharing 👍🏻1Reply

Kevin Middleton⭐🔥

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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 12@Liam Milburn Great advice Liam, and I love how open and honest everyone is in trying to help Steven as well.2Reply

Steven Hall

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Steven Hall • Oct 14When I 1st started out I worked around a head masters house….i asked for his advice as I had 4/5 year olds and I was in the deep end completely clueless.His advice was nothing wrong with a cheeky bribe!!! Chocolate, stickers etcThere was a kid there every week away with the faires coming as a couple of friends from school came had no interest in football he came for months.I cut some gold card up and say it’s was a magic golden ticket and if I do a skill in the game you get one. Never seen him do so many step overs !!!! They went down a storm for a good month or so2Reply

Kevin Middleton⭐🔥

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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 14@Steven Hall Kids love presents, and if you can use them as motivation for them to work hard, then why not!When I was coaching 300 kids per week, I used to buy boxes of Freddo chocolates and use them as incentives (Player of the session, best behaved, etc.).But, for the older groups, the winners of a SSG all got a Freddo. I’ve honestly never see such competitive SSG’s, players willing to die for a Freddo 🤣1Reply