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Author: Sean Ancheta Date: Category: Likes: 0 URL: https://www.skool.com/coachingacademy/negative-communication
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 16Sean, I just wrote this elsewhere on the site:”We need to show up extending 5 fingers to lift each other up, and never with 1 finger pointing in blame or judgement.”and it is true!In saying this, I have played with “moaners” in the past and they do tend to raise the standard. However, most of the time, as a player, you know you have made a mistake and don’t need someone to tell you.So, sometimes it is good and sometimes it is an energy drainer.Is this player your captain?3Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 16Sean, I just wrote this elsewhere on the site:”We need to show up extending 5 fingers to lift each other up, and never with 1 finger pointing in blame or judgement.”and it is true!In saying this, I have played with “moaners” in the past and they do tend to raise the standard. However, most of the time, as a player, you know you have made a mistake and don’t need someone to tell you.So, sometimes it is good and sometimes it is an energy drainer.Is this player your captain?3Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 16Sean, I just wrote this elsewhere on the site:”We need to show up extending 5 fingers to lift each other up, and never with 1 finger pointing in blame or judgement.”and it is true!In saying this, I have played with “moaners” in the past and they do tend to raise the standard. However, most of the time, as a player, you know you have made a mistake and don’t need someone to tell you.So, sometimes it is good and sometimes it is an energy drainer.Is this player your captain?3Reply
Sean Ancheta
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Sean Ancheta • Oct 16Thank you @Kevin Middleton for the response.No he is not the captain. Interestingly enough this players parents wanted to have a talk with me as to why their son wasn’t the captain. Even though he isn’t captain I want to help him develop in this area. He will have a bigger influence on future teams if he can reframe his communication.I have kids who have never played football on the squad so their confidence tanks when they get yelled at by this player.3Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 16Maybe hold the captaincy as a carrot? Be really clear on the behaviours a captain in your side would have to show, and explain how they should help others and pull the team through in tough moments.4Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 16@Jamie Birch This was exactly where my thought process was going 👏2Reply
Nicolas Andrews-Gauvain
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Nicolas Andrews-Gauvain • Oct 16I would also set him a challenge to say something positive to every player in training/matches to help encourage them to be better players. Won’t stop him saying “negative” things but if he is also saying something positive will help.4Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 16@Nicolas Andrews-Gauvain great advice 👍🏻1Reply
Stephen Kavanagh
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Stephen Kavanagh • Oct 17We introduced “Takes No Talent” over the summer that is doing the things that aren’t about skill in the game well. We gave a list of things that we think are important for our group at this point in time (the Leadership Group had input and approved it). One of them is: “Treating others how you would like them to treat you. Bring people up when they are down, encourage if someone makes a mistake, put your arm around someone who is struggling.”We don’t have much of an issue with it, but there are … See more4Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 17@Stephen Kavanagh great advice Stephen, another example of how much of a tight ship you run at your club! I love the concept of “takes no talent” hardwork comes into that as well.1Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 17@Stephen Kavanagh Love this, Stephen 👏1Reply
Stephen Kavanagh
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Stephen Kavanagh • Oct 17Yep “Do your running. Even when it is hard. Even when you don’t want to. Don’t pass a problem on to someone else.”It doesn’t look or feel like a tight ship at times I can tell you 🤣1Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 17@Stephen Kavanagh 🤣0Reply
Ross Whitehead🔥
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Ross Whitehead🔥 • Oct 18Our goalkeeper shouts and screams at his defence. We keep having to say to him to calm down as he’ll get himself wound up and then his head goes.2Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 18@Ross Whitehead goalies!2Reply
Ross Whitehead🔥
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Ross Whitehead🔥 • Oct 18@Kevin Middleton He’s 10 and he effs and blinds at the defence (he gets that from his dad 🙈). He’s left a couple of players crying and not wanting to play with him 😬2Reply
Justin Shiltz
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Justin Shiltz • Oct 24 (edited)As an accountable teammate, I can choose to:
- Not give excuses and face problems head on.
- Not blame others – look to myself first after a mistake or failure.
- Understand that there are consequences for all my actions.
- Be counted on by my teammates to love and support them.
- Look at being on time as a sign of respect to my teammates and coaches
- Have my actions say, “You can depend on me.”
- Be a problem solver, not a problem starter.
- Be attentive to areas of potential.
- Make good decisions on and off the pitch.
- … See more
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Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • Oct 24@Justin Shiltz amazing post Justin!1Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • Oct 24@Justin Shiltz Is this your Players Pledge?2Reply