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Author: Brian Willis Date: Category: Likes: 0 URL: https://www.skool.com/coachingacademy/sportsmanship
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Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • 24dFrom your team or the opposition Brian?0Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • 24dFrom your team or the opposition Brian?0Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • 24dFrom your team or the opposition Brian?0Reply
Brian Willis
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Brian Willis • 24d@Jamie Birch Both. Yesterday my boys were complaining about the other team and wanted me to talk to the other coach. We had a polite and friendly chat about it and asked the ref for his observations. That’s when I found out my boys were probably a lot worse than our opponents.0Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • 24dFor me, it has to start with how you and your team act. The coaching staff have to set the example, no arguing or screaming from the side. Respectful behaviour that they can look up to.If that’s in order there has to be consequences to behaviour that you don’t want to see. You need to set the context of why that is (disrespectful and time spent arguing means time out of position or not concentrating on what the opposition or your team are doing). Consequences can be decided by you but playing ti… See more3Reply
Brian Willis
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Brian Willis • 24d@Jamie Birch 100% agree with setting the example. I think some of this behavior comes from their coach last year. I make it a point to never speak negatively about our opponents and that we have to have respect for ourselves and others no matter what is happening in a match. I don’t ever engage with the ref from the sidelines and I’m always telling my boys that they’re wasting their breath and the ref isn’t going to do anything differently just because some kids are yelling at him.2Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • 24d@Brian Willis you’re doing the right thing by setting the example mate, culture doesn’t come over night though. I comes from the same messages over and over again while seeing their role models act like that. Keep doing what you’re doing 👊🏻1Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • 24d (edited)My new course will help with this 😎Want early access in exchange for feedback, Brian?1Reply
Brian Willis
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Brian Willis • 24d@Kevin Middleton of course. Always happy to be a guinea pig.1Reply
Ross Whitehead🔥
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Ross Whitehead🔥 • 24dWe are lucky that our kids are all quite good and they don’t really trash talk or argue with the ref. We have come up against teams that are the extreme opposite - it’s always an eye-opener for our ones.It 100% comes from the coaches/parents. If the coaches act like that then the players will too. If coaches don’t want that kind of behaviour but don’t clamp down on it, it’ll become common place.3Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • 24d@Ross Whitehead agree. Personally I love it when the opponent has lost their head, they’re not concentrating then and we will be1Reply
Brian Willis
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Brian Willis • 24d@Ross Whitehead I sent a message to the parents last night about sportsmanship and my expectations, and that our boys can’t complain just because they lost the match when their language and trash talking was probably worse than the other team’s. Win or lose we have to be respectful of ourselves, our opponents, and the ref. Got zero responses back.3Reply
Steve Miles
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Steve Miles • 23dWhat age groups? I also ref and if someone is trash talking or excessively arguing with me then I have a quiet word with them about dissent, unsportsmanlike conduct, yellow cards and sin bins. It definitely helps and stops most of it2Reply
Brian Willis
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Brian Willis • 23d@Steve Miles U12.2Reply
Steve Miles
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Steve Miles • 21d@Brian Willis Definitely start to explain about sportsmanship and potential implications of what they are doing - even think about sitting kids out for a couple of minutes as a sin bin in training if you catch them doing it - As @Sean Ancheta has said, reward the behaviours that you want to see as well2Reply
Sean Ancheta
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Sean Ancheta • 23dOne thing I have done is have the players come up with the behaviors we want to see on the field. If they behavior goes below the standard, using trash talking as an example, the team or captain will call out the teammate and let them know to come above the standard. The standards are non negotiable once they have been set. If a player is finding it hard to stay above the standard then they may need a mental break on the bench. During practice when we are scrimmaging I will make bad calls on pur… See more5Reply
Jamie Birch🔥
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Jamie Birch🔥 • 23d@Sean Ancheta great advice1Reply
Brian Willis
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Brian Willis • 23d@Sean Ancheta Thanks. I like what you did with purposely creating situations in which they needed to step up in scrimmages. I introduced rotating captains this season to help with some behavior issues. It helped to a point. Everyone wanted to be picked as captain for the week but only half made sure they were up to the standards I laid out. Found other ways to get through to some of the others and thijgs have slowly gotten better.3Reply
Ross Whitehead🔥
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Ross Whitehead🔥 • 21dI forgot about this until just now. During my daughter’s cup game at the weekend, in the dying embers of the game, the opposition had a penalty claim (from my angle the girl went down easily). Their coach was shouting at the ref, and then a couple of our girls started mouthing off back at him at full-time. Our coach marched on, barked at them to shut-up and off they went as quiet as church mice. He has quite high standards, so when the standards fall below expectations, he’s always quick to remind them.3Reply
Kevin Middleton⭐🔥
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Kevin Middleton⭐🔥 • 21d@Ross Whitehead That’s the way to do it. Show leadership and do the hard thing when you need to 💪3Reply
Brian Willis
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Brian Willis • 21d@Ross Whitehead I get so annoyed by coaches who waste their time and effort barking at refs from the sidelines. Especially at the youth level where some of the linesman aren’t much older than my boys. I’ll have a polite conversation at the half or after the match sometimes and ask for an explanation, but that’s it. As coaches there are so many more useful places to put that energy.One of the big things I tell my boys when we lose is no excuses. When we blame the refs or the other team, we’re overlooking the things we need to work on and do better.3Reply